So, Bunny came to me and asked me to read her latest blog post over on rbmbs. It was definitely a heart-felt request, almost polite (well, at least not mean) and obviously important to her so I did.
Here are my thoughts to her:
A very interesting read and well written too. You certainly have talent and thoughtfulness. However, you still have not addressed the relentless cruel propganda against another person issue, which is the whole reason I started this blog. Another problem I had was that again you are drawing parallels between Kelly, or anyone who supports her blog, and the murderer jodiarias (many have referred to JA followers as "drinking the koolaid").
The content and voice in this post were a step in the right direction, but its intentions were still hateful. Why can't you write about your experience in a way that people can relate to you? Tell your story in order to help others that you feel may fall prey to such a situation that you feel you fell victim to? As for your "regularly scheduled program", I understand wanting to do a parody, I am speaking from experience when I say that it is indeed satisfying when you are upset to go for the satire (reference my first post ever, Meanie B.'s debut).
But I still honestly do not get why it is still happening, why you persist. The snowball effect going on in conversations is everywhere. Everyone is Kelly and Kelly is Sandra and Sandra is MDLR and *breakingnews* MDLR is now Kareem. Yes I am kidding, but the conspiracy theory is alive and well in the meanie camp. And if someone doesn't agree they are pretty much told to STFU. My not understanding is not for lack of trying. I am usually very diplomatic. Why is rbmbs still there, in real-time, mocking Kelly's words almost just as she types them? what purpose does it serve if not to bully and promote hate towards RBMD? It is clear in the comments of your blog that hate is thriving.
For the record, the catfish story written by Meanie proved absolutely nothing to me. My basic instinct is that Meanie's story was all about a personal grudge, she saw a golden opportunity to gain loyalty and secure more followers. My take is that it was about promoting herself and not about helping you or anybody. I just wish it all would have been handled differently, vs in the public forum of the JA trial. I don't know that I will ever be able to see eye to eye with you because of your blind loyalty to someone I find to be a fraud herself.
The more I read Meanie, and all her "mentions", the more I think she has her own agenda. I find her to be a snotty and pretentious "muffin, my dear, lmao." Always reminding everyone how noble she is and that she is a reporter. Whatever, I'm a reporter too. I am a journalist. Because I report things, and I journal things. Big whoop. There is not a single true professional out there that feels the need to constantly remind their readers that they are professional. It speaks for itself and she is no professional in my book - if she is she sure doesn't act like one. Not by a mile. She totally rubs me the wrong way, the way she abuses her "position". A professional should not be applauding hateful messages and insults, she should be encouraging understanding and diplomacy. Anyway that is not for us to argue, that is a whole other monster.
So revenons à nos moutons, my beef is that you have recruited and continue to promote hate and to recruit more people via rbmbs, tweets, and retweets to hate with you. I just really honestly think that is wrong. Even if Kelly had robbed your house and stolen your car while you were away and you had left her the keys to watch your cats bc you trusted her more than anyone, I still don't see why you have to try so hard to get everyone else to hate her. I don't hate her. I actually like her a lot because her blog makes me laugh every day and laughter adds value to my life. I am not emotionally or financially invested in her or any internet friends to the point that it could shake my existence the way this all seems to have shaken yours. My liking her or enjoying her writing is my choice and my problem, if it ever were to become a problem that's on me. Everyone is fighting their own battles and everyone has their own demons, there is no need to be mean to others.
Instead of writing such a cruel parody that keeps you all wrapped up and tied together for eternity, why can't you turn the page and use your talent, quick wit, and humor to talk about the issues that you hold so close to your heart? In a way that is not being mean to others, but in a way that inspires others?
Okay I think I figured out how to post here, Carmen! Been meaning to come here and applaud you for writing these articles, your comments are so valid and reveal you as a kind and caring soul. I refuse to dirty myself by going over to Meanie's articles, and I don't read the martini sipping really big housewife bunny either. I just don't need a daily dose of Vitamin H (hate). It's puzzling though, that this is still going on. From Meanie's smelly flanks has sprang the really mean bunny, whose main delight in life is serving up a heaping helping of hate. I find it a sad that is all she has to contribute and very telling about the condition of her spirit. Yours is as sweet and light as hers is bitter and dark. Yet, Meanie and Tie and their minions continue to applaud and promote this unacceptable behavior, yes Meanie is the mother of them all, I would hate to think that woman is making decisions on my PTA board. Tie seems to have some sort of control over Meanie and is leading her around, making her perform like her pet monkey, as the rest of the circus freaks sit around and mimic her. The only ones who think this is funny, is themselves. So, Carmen, if it works, I will have a video to post for you! Hope you don't mind!!
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ReplyDeleteCarmen, sorry I'm not very good at this I guess! If you can bring this into the column, feel free to do so!
ReplyDeleteWell done, Carmen! Your posts are always so eloquent, articulate and persuasive! I'm sure that I'm not the only one who admires your ability and command of the written word.
ReplyDeleteI used to think that people who bragged constantly about their job or their material possessions were narcissists. I've recenly discovered that is far from the truth. Those who are constantly demanding admiration or use words as weapons are actually insecure and lack self-confidence. They fill the voids in their lives by hurting others, and they feel powerful and "in command". I feel pity for them,,,if they put half as much effort in building someone up as they spend tearing someone down, they would be the person they wish they were.
No one can give another "happiness"...that comes from deep inside...as does self-respect. I hope both women can see that if they used their talents to inspire, to build, rather than destroy....I'm sure that they will find more happiness and more self-respect when they choose to give happiness instead of sorrow.
Well stated, Mama! They are too busy mud slinging to take a moment to consider their own dirty hands, they enjoy it far too much to give it up, which points to long standing personal issues. I wonder if they realized the window into their souls they have opened? Probably not, they feel they are perfect, and it's going to be a looonnngggg fall from such a lofty perch!
Deletehahaha you are so tech savvy Truly :D lol i loved reading you thismorning i mean really loved it. Thank you so much for your thoughts, it means a lot to me that others share my point of view, sometimes I wonder what the heck am I doing all mixed up in this, so thank you for your support. I enjoyed the video sooo very much, good one!
ReplyDeleteGlad you enjoyed it! I am just entering this sphere of social media (dragging my feet all the way) and I am sadly rather inept! You are very brave to face this issue because they are indeed very vicious. There are more of us who support you than you attack you, so feel good about that! You have my respect!
DeleteThank you MamaVia! Feelin the love <3
ReplyDeleteCarmen, I delight in what you are attempting to do. I admire it, I truly do, however, I, for one, have given up trying to teach 'pigs to sing'.( I find it only frustrates the teacher and pisses off the pigs) Therefore, I shall refrain from reading any more of the rabid hare news no matter the asking.
ReplyDeleteSome notes on what I did see. While the 'slipper' is a good writer, she/he/it does not deal in any 'depth'. It is info 'light' . How much better could her explanation of
"drinking the KoodAid' have been had she also made it relevant? A little digging would have brought out the fact that the Peoples' Temple & Jim Jones had their 'start' in the very area of California where Jodi was raised (Northern California). (It didn't start in San Francisco like many think). Even had she only used some references to quirky or interesting tidbits it would have made her 'article' much more interesting. I think perhaps she is trying to copy her mentor. Sad, since she seems to be a far better writer than the 'journalist'.
As for said 'journalist', I also found it in poor taste the way she handled her ***BREAKING NEWS****EXPOSE**** with little, or no proof. I think it turned into more of a gossip sheet at that point. She went too far when she allowed people to post absolutely absurd notions that another person with (almost) an identical name were one and the same person. No matter how many tried to enlighten her of the error, her only response was (paraphrasing here) 'I didn't post it, I just re-tweeted it'.
Is that supposed to be and excuse? When (repeatedly) asked WHY she had posted her ********BREAKING NEWS******* and called out for her methods, she had the utter arrogance to make statements like : "if you only heard my weeping readers crying to me". "my traumatized readers were begging me for help".......
THAT is what raised my hackles up and sunk her to a new low. For Heavens' sake people! It's the internet! If you are a 'victim' of.....trauma/abuse/phobias........the last person most would turn to is a GOSSIP columnist! Think people! A true "journalist' would gather ALL the facts and have ALL the proof and THEN, would turn all over to the police and only after advising the police, would the 'journalist' print. Meanwhile, I can only say that I have not heard ANYWHERE that 'traumatizes victims' are flooding the therapists offices in droves due to 'catfishing' in Canada.
Alright Carmen, I have now said my piece........the 'Hats', 'Ties', Boiler Bunnies' ,'Alcoholic Beverages' and 'Jockstraps' can all be kicked to the back of my closet.
I thank you and respect you for what you are trying and have tried to do. As Carole King said: "I haven't got time for the pain"............over and out!
Hey Pirate. Ok take a deep breath! I can tell you are frustrated yes it is maddening sometimes! and i'm glad i was here for you to get all that off your chest. Don't let the meanies have any power over you! Sending love and happy thoughts your way ❤️ Now, let's use that energy to support JUSTICEFORTRAVISALEXANDER today! Omg is that a light at the end of the tunnel I see?
ReplyDeleteTee-Hee......Meanies have zero power! I usually suffer them for amusement purposes only! (it's a cheap giggle on a cold winter day) However, I do resent their 'holier-than-thou' attitudes. Right now, I have two things I must do:
ReplyDelete#1) Take the boiling bunny off the stove
#2) get ready to head out for work
Have a great day at work, pirate! I see Pirate's point. I'm STILL not sure, even after almost 4 weeks, what Kelly did to earn the vitriol. If her "crime" was so heinous, why not report it to the police, rather than subject her (and us) to this constant destructive stream of hate? (And, if it ISN'T a "crime", I do not understand the "Exposé", or why this is still an issue?). My home was burgled several years ago, only 1/2 my jewelry was recovered, and most distressing, was they stole my (deceased) sisters's change purse, containing less than $3! I had to go to 9 different pawn shops and pay the "loan" plus "pawn fees" to recover my jewelry, and I will never see everal expensive pieces that were of sentimental value. (I had to pay over $500 to get my jewelry back!). The burglar was caught, and convicted...and gave a sob story to the judge who ordered her to pay restitution and she received 10 years of probation. Instead of doing what she should, she went to Ohio, and I will never receive a dime from her. I believe that Karma will catch up to her one day, it is not in my best interest to pursue her, and I certainly don't spend what little energy I have on trying to "get even". It was a lesson, an expensive lesson, but a lesson, nevertheless.
ReplyDeleteMeanie made a point of telling us once that she has a "special needs" child and several ailing adults living in a "compound" (in a high tax base). (Whatever that means). Martini wrote recently that her stepson is "schizophrenic". Whether these are fact or fiction, I certainly don't know, but, if it is true, it would seem that these two women's families would be better served if their effort was focused on their families, rather than being so intent on retribution for a few small donations made by (unnamed) contributors.
It is interesting to note that respected professional journalists have not picked up this story and published follow up reports, it isn't on the news wires, it's only three people harping on this issue (two of whom won't reveal their real names, only their pseudonyms). Hopefully all three will come to realize that the "story" is "old" (journalists say "it doesn't have legs") and that the recent posts are so wrapped in backhand comments, it only makes sense if you are "in" on all the background.
It's actually getting to the point that you both are losing what little credibility you had prior to the "Exposé". Carmen is right, Martini's writing skills are superior to Meanie's. Perhaps she will see this herself, and put her talent to better use than she is currently.
P.S.-my thoughts and prayers are with the Alexander Family and friends...I pray that your brother receives the justice he so richly deserves...I came very close to losing my son, (his ex-wife talked her baby-daddy into attacking him; she is just as deranged as Arias is) and, to be honest, I don't know that I have the strength to survive the loss of my son! My sister was killed in an auto accident when she was 20,(my dad & my nephew also died in the accident) so I DO know the emptiness you feel at holidays...I couldn't ride in a car for several years! I relived the accident night after night in my dreams, I would think of something I needed to tell her and pick up the phone, only to remember that she'd never answer my call again. It was 38 years this last Christmas, and the pain of my loss hasn't left...it is just more bearable. I hope that you can take comfort knowing that so many of us pray for your family, we pray for justice. We admire the strength you've shown throughout this trial. None of us will forget your brother, and we will continue to hold you in our prayers. It is so very wrong that you were subjected to the sordid details and lies that Arias presented during the trial, I'm sorry that you had to endure that. Prayers always!
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing here MamaVia, so many of us have had tragedies in our lives, that is why being kind to each other as fellow humans is so vital! Travis strived to live that way too. #JUSTICEFORTRAVISALEXANDER
ReplyDeleteWell, Carmen, God knows I've made my share of stupid (or at least not fully thought out) mistakes in my life! When I was young, I'd automatically find a way not to take the blame...my first answer was always "yes, BUT..." And then I'd find s way not to be responsible. But, later, I think in my mid 30s, I learned to say: "you know what, you are right! I shouldn't have _____, I was wrong, and I won't do that again!" This almost ALWAYS took the bluster out of my boss, my husband, even my son...people EXPECT that you aren't going to take responsibility...so, when you say "you are RIGHT, I was WRONG, and I won't do that AGAIN" it SURPRISES them! And, it's odd, but it's pretty easy to do! It doesn't even HURT! If you make a habit of taking responsibility for your errors in judgement, you also gain some self-respect! Others see you as an honest person, not a bullshipper, and the next thing you know, people begin to give you the trust you wanted to earn! You might even find that you walk with your head high, looking forward to the future, rather than seeing you are a victim! At the same time, you also learn to accept others for who they are, "warts and all". We each have endured tragedies, some we share, others we hide...but when you learn to love yourself, (not in a narcississtic way, but seeing your good points and working on those things which you can improve) it is easier to love other people, to see the wonderful things within, and support them in the times when life is most trying. Each person that enters my life, changes me, somewhat...and I change them...my goal in life is to ease a heartache when I can, cause a laugh, when it's needed, and for both if us to be better, happier people because of the experience. Being miserable hurts...I try each day to do my best, and there are days that I fail...but I have a new beginning in the morning..another chance to make my life, and those around me, happier people. I believe that you see life in the same way...or at least that is what I read in your words here. I'm grateful for your blog posts...your attempt to make life better for everyone! Thank you, Carmen...if no charges are brought about, it wasn't because you didn't do your best. You have my admiration and gratitude!
ReplyDeleteI apologize, MamaVia, for Bunny's remarks. I ask that you please bite your tongue and don't feed the mean Bunny. This is not her playground.
DeleteBunny, I would rather read Mama's posts anyday than yours. She is entertaining and we welcome her. You bring nothing but your usual dose of Vitamin H.
DeleteOh, poor Carmen, you still don't get it. I am not Christine and I rarely post on her articles. I fight for the disenfranchised, the good people who got taken in by a shill. Who cares if you read and enjoy? You miss the point then. There are victims and until the Perpetrator of the big lie confesses or apologizes, the hurt remains. Isn't that what everyone wants from Jodi Arias? A little remorse?
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry but what are you talking about? I never even suggested you were Meanie B at all. I suggested that you use your talent to inspire others instead of inciting hate.
ReplyDeleteShe's losing it, obviously.
DeleteAnd what are you doing but inspiring hate? No one on my blog has ever suggested killing dogs or other acts of terror but you incite people to boil, burn, sacrifice and slay bunnies. Seems to me that you are guilty of what you accuse. You created this blog merely to flame the fires, Carmen. You are more guilty than the originators.
ReplyDeleteCarmen is simply countering the blackness you spew with a little light, love and forgiveness, Bunny. I think anyone could pull up the post and twitters and see the truth of who the bully is here. Perhaps a mistake was made, perhaps it was not as intentional as you think, perhaps there was nothing to it at all. In any event, we have certainly seen how you react when your words are turned against you. Sucks doesn't it? We know you aren't Christine -- you're actually better than her but you use it to bring the bad not the good from others. You have all done your little expose (for what maybe 5 whole people, the rest of us could care less) but that's not good enough, you must drag it on and on and cry FOUL when it is dished back to you. I suggest, like Carmen, that you use your talents for good. If you did, we might even have the grace to forgive you, as well.
DeleteI am not inciting hate in any way and I'm not playing your game. The only thing I hate, is hate.
ReplyDeleteHang in there Carmen, when the bunny starts hopping over to your page to criticize and demean you, it means you are doing something right!
DeleteTruly, I won't even respond. I find the boiled bunnies BORE ME.
ReplyDeleteI just wish they would put down the baseball bats and stop beating people over the head. It's really disturbing.
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